Painful Sorrows have just begun... (mini series episode 4)

Don't forget to be here on April 26th, at 7 AM my time ok?

Last Episode: Dwi was survived because of the prayers of his friends and family, including girlfriend Ibeth. She made a commitment to God, to accompany Dwi for the rest of her life. Being burnt alive, Dwi was wounded severely, and his family even couldn't accept the fact that Dwi was not the same Dwi as before...

Dwi happened to have intention to commit suicide because he couldn't accept this bitter fact. He kept asking WHY.. WHY.. WHY... to himself... to God... Ibet's love gave him strength, she kept on encouraging him and promised him to be there for him. Though she had to take 5 hours journey to the hospital, she always came and took care of him. Change the bandage was so painful. That burnt skin got blistered and usually the skin was peeled, given alcohol or betadine, covered by bandage. The day after, the bandage had to be change, and the fresh wounded was peeled again and it was hurt A LOT! This was 50% all over his body. 3 hours of painful suffering screams! (Well, it's surely far more painful than acne treatment believe me). You can imagine that angry painful screams... the nurses should have been scolded many times that Ibet had to be trained to change the bandage. Ibet could tell him not to scream when she change the bandages... Sometimes, Dwi cried... "God, it is extremely painful...why this happened to me, and all my dream as if it is grabbed from me all at once" and I am sure it is not only his body, his heart more suffered that we couldn't understand. He used to have a perfect physic, a perfect future... and now his body was damaged badly and he really didn't know about his future anymore... he was so scared that Ibet would leave me alone as well... in fact, God answered his prayers and comforted him.

The boring day by day he has to pass at the hospital, he passed them all with Ibet's presence. Sometimes she brought some food, so Dwi could eat something different from the boring hospital's food. Do you want to guess how long Dwi was hospitalized? Ok.. think and guess first... done? He was hospitalized 1,5 years! What a boring time! He has to go through reconstruction operation 25 times. It was Ibet who signed the operation procedure as none of his family would responsible about him. His 'perfect' skin was peeled and pasted into his burnt skin. His face skin was taken from his thigh's skin. He was grateful that God has given him strength through Ibet. He believed that it was not because of him, it was not because of his effort that has made Ibet stood by him. He believed, because of God has touched her heart.

There were times when he felt inferior as everyone saw him with the weird sight. Even the securities were scared to see his face, he said. He got offended so easily, including to little children. Children usually cried when they saw him, and he hated that very much. One day, Ibet told him that his emotion and anger were no use at all, it couldn't change anything. He still would be that ugly (he said so). However, Ibet said, if he could overcome his anger and try to accept his condition, if he could reconcile with himself, if he could accept his shortcomings, he would reach one step further. It is so hard to accept and confess that we have defects... many people with perfect nose had a nose operation to make it better, right?

One day, Ibet said that the government has stopped their economic support for Dwi's treatment and Dwi's parents would move Dwi to a remote place to isolate him. Ibet wasn't pleased to hear that. Ibet talked to her parents and told them that she would get married soon. They 100% rejected her plan and didn't want to accept Dwi as their son in law. However, Ibet insisted to marry Dwi so he would not be isolated to remote area. Ibet, bravely, came to Dwi's parents and proposed Dwi!

Despite her decision was against from every direction, Bethania insisted in marrying Dwi. They married on 17 Juli 1999....

Could Dwi find a job? How they could build Dwi's self confidence? We will find it on the next episode.

A question for you:
Can you accept someone just the way he/she is just like Ibet accept Dwi? Is physical thing matter to you?